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WHAT IS Co-Dependency?
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My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.
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My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.
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Your struggles affect my serenity.
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My mental attention focuses on solving your problems or relieving your pain.
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My mental attention is focused on pleasing you.
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My mental attention is focused on protecting you.
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My mental attention is focused on manipulating you "to do it my way".
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My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems.
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My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.
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My own hobbies and interests are put aside. My time is spent sharing your interests and hobbies.
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Your clothing and personal appearance is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
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Your behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
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I am not aware of how I feel. I am aware of how you feel.
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I am not aware of what I want. I ask you what you want.
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If I am not aware, I assume.
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The dreams I have for my future are linked to you.
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My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.
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My fear of your anger determines what I say or do.
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I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.
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My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you.
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I put my values aside in order to connect with you.
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I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own.
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The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours.
Author unknown. Contributed by MissXena.
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